Fighting

So, last night I was at a friends house.  We were having fun, talking, playing cards.  Then her husband wakes up.  It was like he couldn't see me or something, and starts a fight with her.  He is all yelling at her, she is all apologizing, and telling him she is done with the conversation.  He keeps going and keeps going.  Like I was not there.  Yelling at her.  For like 30 minutes.  I could tell she was embarrassed, and I was in a very uncomfortable position.  I sat there staring at the table for 30 minutes.  I never said a word.  As the conversation went, I could have corrected both of them quite a few times.  But I sat there quiet, and very uncomfortable.  I can not get out on paper/monitor how shocked and weird I felt.  I just kept thinking, OMG!  And he would calm down, and then start up again, ranting for no reason.  He wouldn't let it go.  I just don't get it.  So he chilled out in the living room for like 5 minutes, and came back in the dining room like nothing happened and asked to play cards with us.  Like WTF!?  I was still freaked out and couldn't look at him for like an hour.

So my question for all of you readers, what would you have done in that situation?  Would you have made up an excuse and leave?  Would you stay hoping it would lessen the brunt for the wife?  Would you have stepped in and corrected them? 

30 minutes is a long time to listen to someone yell....

4:38 AM - Nov. 14, 2005 - post comment

Um...

I would have joined in. The boredom must have killed you :S

Anonymoose - 5:29 AM - Nov. 14, 2005

I would have started to collect my things to leave....

I would have then told him (especially) that I was leaving now...
and that I shouldn't have been subjected to this when I come over to their house...
"...listening to the two of you bitch for an hour
is not why I came over here."

Then, if they both apologize...
and he had stopped his tirade...
then maybe I would have stayed...

Steve - 10:33 AM - Nov. 14, 2005

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Wow, I probably would have said, "I'll go home now," and I would have looked at my friend and said, "Call me if you need me." Sounds like your friend's hubby is lacking in some basic social skills...
-annette

Anonymous - 1:36 PM - Nov. 14, 2005

What would I do?

Hey you, it's me "client". I moved my blog to another spot.

Anyway, with regards to your question, I probably would have looked at my toes, count the seconds that pass me by and try to figure out a way to run out of the room without being noticed. I guess by now you can tell I don't like confrontations.:)

Someone Not So Anonymous - 1:03 AM - Nov. 15, 2005

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i was once in this position and i excused myself (for a cigarette although i could have just as easily said air)---by removing myself from the direct situation his 'audience' was no longer there--he calmed down a bit quicker--yet she knew i was just outside if she need me--when i returned things had pretty much settled--because i hadn't witnessed it all, she was less embarassed and he was less smug about it all

Anonymous - 12:57 PM - Nov. 15, 2005